We all feel it, we all know it. The ever present five hundred directional pull to get the laundry done, the groceries bought, the dinner cooked, the house cleaned, the babies tended to, the house maintenanced, the appointments made and the work weeks completed. It’s constant. It’s hard.
It’s also so extremely important to make sure in all the mayhem that a small little chunk is dividied out to just be yours. Your time. Mommy time. Daddy time. Mommy, Daddy and Baby time….
Life is fast, it seems to get faster every single day. For us Kason gets more alert, more active, more in every single way. The regular every day things that need to get done get harder to accomplish. This is not a train that gets to slow down either! You can just expect that old caboose to keep on speeding away and you must make sure you stay on board, not dragged behind.
What is that one part of yourself that you have either given up or have been avoiding as you focus your attention on this new beautiful life that your family has created? What part of yourself do you fear you will never get back? It’s a hard question to ask and an even harder question to answer. That good old Mom Guilt comes creeping in and you decide that it isn’t important. That your priorities lie elsewhere now. That you cannot focus any of your attention towards yourself because everyone and everything else needs it more.
I’ll ask you to pause there. You must make yourself a prioity too!
We are now at four months postpartum and I will be the first to admit that I need to make that time. I need to work on me. I keep talking about it on and on, but talk is cheap. I need to get up and do it.
If I don’t like how my clothes fit, then I need to get up and exercise. Find the time. Make it happen! This is my struggle. We all have one.
It is easy to push it off to the back burner. It is easy to say “tomorrow will be the day”, because there are so many other tasks calling for attention. The hard part is finding the time….making the time today!
I miss feeling good and feeling like I look good. For my husband. For me. Also, for my son. I want to be a good example for him. I want to be healthy for him.
I guess I just wanted to say – don’t forget yourself Mamas! We are Moms and Wives first, but we are still us too. Xoxo